Love and anger are two world forces.  Love increases and builds, anger breaks down and changes.  We can see these two as partners within us and work with them together to achieve balance.

Culturally we treat these two as oppositional forces and that causes us to be polarized and disempowered.  When we love greatly, we are more likely to become angry than when we just don’t care.  But most of those who read this blog will tend to see themselves aligned with the love polarity in our culture; this often makes it difficult to use our anger effectively.  It can cause us to judge anger as bad which blocks its moderate expression in balance with our love.  Then it breaks loose when we can’t hold it in anymore and becomes a destructive force in our lives.  Learning to partner our love and our anger we can empower our actions and choices.  This is one great lesson for spiritual people, because when we see people using anger without love, that can make us angry!  We need to unify these forces within.

Anger grounds, motivates and drives.  Love unifies and invites Higher Power to act in the world.  So when you find yourself feeling angry, before you choose to stuff it, and if you can pause from acting on it, find out what within you needs to be expressed, or what needs to change in your life.  To do this you may need to go within and ask yourself what it is that you are afraid of, worried about, or judging.  Get really honest and into your feelings, the answers may not be in your head, but rather in your belly.  Learn to listen to your gut.

Many times what you will find there is an old fear or judgment that requires love and a connection to Higher Power in order to resolve into a more mature level of self-awareness.  Working with these old issues is a lot like working with a child who needs to be listened to, loved and taught how to respond to issues and relationships with greater effectiveness.  You can teach your feeling self through inner hugs and self-talk and welcoming your Higher Self and the Higher Power to embrace your old hurts.

Once you get past that, ask yourself what you want to do about the thing in your life currently, which made you feel angry.  Is this something you feel you should respond to, or was it only a teacher to make you address your old fears and become stronger within?  You will know which because either you will feel at peace and like you don’t need to act, or the issue will keep coming up and bothering you.

If the feelings within you won’t resolve without action, then choose to act with love.  When you combine love and anger you have the most powerful force for change in the world.  From that state you receive a higher level of intuitive intelligence to guide your responses to life.  It takes you past the knee jerk of anger and into a place of compassionate response.   From there you can act without being perceived as attacking.  This is important, because when someone feels attacked, they are almost certain to attack back!  Then you have war and retribution and it gets ugly.

I think this is particularly important at this time in our country when tempers are high.  Being spiritual, we may feel our job is merely to stay removed from things and work with our spiritual tools, and that is important.  However, there are also great outer opportunities for loving action available to us.  Yes, the world needs to break down in order to ascend, so we can give thanks for the destructive behaviors of others for that reason.  I am told to expect about a 40% breakdown before things are able to be lifted to a higher level where they can resolve into something new and better.  But choosing a loving and empowered response to the damaging energies others are promoting (where you feel the call to do so) can help everyone to shift more easily.  What is most important is that we don’t feed the negativity by acting from fear, judgment, hatred and blame.  Or if we do, we will quickly observe the negative backlash!  Then we will hopefully remember to step back and work through our reactions to find a way to respond that will be helpful and empowering of the greater good for all.

I am often reminded of Nelson Mandela and how his unconditional love turned the hostile environment of South Africa into a great victory for love and unity.  We can do that together.  None of us has to individually go through what he did; but if we will collectively overcome our individual fears and choose to act with compassion and love for ourselves and others, we will achieve new levels of self-mastery and help our world heal and ascend.

The same process applies to our personal relationships, because it is where we love greatly in a human sense that we will experience fear and anger most intensely.  It is because we care and we are vulnerable.  When you find yourself angry with those you love, don’t just stuff it or blame them for it, but take a moment to step back and work with it.  Seek within your feelings for what is really going on.  A simple question to ask yourself is —  How old do I feel in this situation? — .  Usually the answer will be that you are feeling quite young, between 2 and 10 yrs. old.  That awareness can help you understand the fears that are motivating your anger.  Deal with those through self-talk and teaching your child self as though you were your own better parent.  If needed a spiritual healing can help you move through spots that keep you in fear instead of love.

Once you have brought comfort and love to those old fearful places, you will be able to respond to those you love with compassion and dignity, instead of anger and fear.

It is never too late to do this; even if you have had a big fight, or stuffed your fear and anger and not taken care of your feelings.  When you do your inner work you can bring your Higher Self in and find ways to heal the situation.  You can go back into your feelings and imagination and re-walk through the situation as many times as needed to free up the fear and anger, and discover how you can respond with empowered love, compassion and dignity.

Doing this will alter the dynamic in the relationship and allow change to happen.  Then you will find you can respond differently next time.  Sometimes it will help to talk it through with the person, and sometimes it will be enough to wait and see how the situation alters just from doing your inner work.  Either way can be empowered and self-loving.  See what feels right to you.

Anger is the force of change in your life.  When you feel it, something needs your attention so things can change.  First look within with love and compassion for the change that is needed within yourself.  Responding to that, you will then be able to discern what action or change is needed in your outer affairs.  From that position, acting with love, compassion and dignity you can be a positive force for good in the world.

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Have an empowered and loving week my ascending friends!  Love, Eve