{"id":4286,"date":"2024-12-12T15:24:08","date_gmt":"2024-12-12T20:24:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/blog\/?p=4286"},"modified":"2024-12-12T17:14:11","modified_gmt":"2024-12-12T22:14:11","slug":"caring-for-yourself-over-the-holidays","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/blog\/?p=4286","title":{"rendered":"Caring for Yourself Over the Holidays"},"content":{"rendered":"

The holidays are hard on people\u2019s balance and wholeness whether you love them or dread them.\u00a0 Many people have been asking for guidance with handling relationships during ascension.\u00a0 This season gives me a good opportunity for addressing some of those concerns.<\/p>\n

We are ascending, and as we come into greater unity with Inner Wisdom and Higher Self, many people begin to notice how other people can be draining or else disturb their inner harmony and wholeness.\u00a0 Temporarily many people withdraw from others and spend more time alone.\u00a0 But once we gain skill at maintaining our wholeness, we are better able to enjoy other people again.\u00a0 The holidays challenge us to stay whole while we enjoy our family and friends or avoid them as the case may be! \u00a0Here are some tools and ideas that will help you to enjoy others while caring for yourself over the holidays or any time at all.<\/p>\n

Think of a forest, and of the trees, each standing tall, anchored into the Earth and the sky.\u00a0 They don\u2019t lean toward each other just to be close.\u00a0 Unless there is a difficulty accessing the sun which requires them to lean, they grow straight.\u00a0 There is, in the forest, a sense of community and of mutual support and harmony.\u00a0 But it\u2019s not because they lean on each other usually.\u00a0 It is because they are each whole.<\/p>\n

People, on the other hand, are often inclined to rely on others for their sustenance and comfort.\u00a0 If others aren\u2019t there or are hateful, they can even whither and die.\u00a0 This dynamic is very old-world and built on social expectations which support our dysfunctional ways of life.\u00a0 People are not generally encouraged to be independent and different.\u00a0 Even people who think of themselves as alternative, seem to want those they love to be like they are.\u00a0 True independence challenges the beliefs and assumptions others hold about life.\u00a0 This is the dysfunctionality I mentioned as I see it.<\/p>\n

As we ascend, we are learning to be more like trees, each holding ourselves in wholeness and generating life force for ourselves. We are being guided by our Inner Wisdom rather than other’s expectations.\u00a0 Most of my readers and students are increasing this ability.\u00a0 But when we return to our families of origin, we are drawn back to habits built deep within our developing bodies, emotions, minds, and egos.\u00a0 There is an unconscious relaxing into those familiar dynamics, and along with that reminders of how though it feels comfortable at first, it can become disappointing, draining or toxic.\u00a0 On subsequent days people may find themselves wondering why they feel down or like they’ve lost inner compass.<\/p>\n

Often over the holidays, spiritual disciplines can be put on the shelf, thinking we are on holiday and shouldn\u2019t have to do them.\u00a0 This is exactly the cause of many problems people have.\u00a0 When facing our families and childhood habits we need our disciplines to stay whole.\u00a0 Like trees, when we maintain our inner unity, can enjoy harmony with our families and friends while still remaining whole.\u00a0 In this way we generate unconditional love and new world energies within our family and social relationships.\u00a0 We become light bearers, as we strengthen our wholeness and truth.\u00a0 Not so much because we teach or minister to others, but because we are a presence of unconditional love and wholeness.<\/p>\n

Regardless, if we are people who love or dread the holidays, we can use this opportunity to strengthen our wholeness.\u00a0 This is true whether we choose to remain alone or to join in gatherings.\u00a0 We can see this wholeness as a gift we give to ourselves, to deepen our commitment to being who we really are.\u00a0 We can invest in building that most primal relationship between our human ego and our eternal divine self.<\/p>\n

I prepare for the holidays by deepening my spiritual focus and strength.\u00a0 I know the extra social activity will challenge my balance and I am committed to remaining whole for myself and for my work for the world.\u00a0 I also am extra careful with sugar and alcohol because these create chemical imbalances and toxicity which can create permeability in my body and aura to bacteria, but also to people\u2019s energies.\u00a0 Many of you are also natural empaths.\u00a0 The feelings and energies of others can be hard to protect yourself from.\u00a0 Go very light on these substances so you can enjoy yourself but remain whole and balanced.<\/p>\n

If you would like suggestions for deepening your personal wholeness through the experience of the holidays, here are some I can offer you.\u00a0 Pay special attention to #6!\u00a0 This is a big one for many people.<\/p>\n

1 \u2013 Do your daily \u201csetup\u201d.\u00a0 By that I mean, do your spiritual work to prepare yourself for your day by strengthening your inner unity of body, ego, soul, and spirit.<\/p>\n