{"id":4080,"date":"2024-03-28T15:04:59","date_gmt":"2024-03-28T19:04:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/blog\/?p=4080"},"modified":"2024-03-28T15:13:12","modified_gmt":"2024-03-28T19:13:12","slug":"growing-sovereignty-in-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/blog\/?p=4080","title":{"rendered":"Growing Sovereignty in Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"

Today I was guided to clear a vast block that was like a giant pillar of metal separating our human ego from our unity with the One.\u00a0 This came as part of rewriting the contract for that.\u00a0 The shift it brings is an amazing one that will allow people to grow our sovereign selves to live in unity and wholeness.<\/p>\n

The updated contract gives us an opportunity to shift the dynamics of our human relationships from co-dependent to sovereign.\u00a0 This is a challenging subject to address because our human relationships are often tied in with our deepest insecurity caused by the separation from Oneness that we experienced as we entered our first individual incarnation.\u00a0 The trauma of that separation has been repeated over and over again with each new incarnation and each human lifetime.\u00a0 We have felt alone, vulnerable, needing something or someone to hold onto that would help fill the void which can only be filled by returning to unity as today\u2019s world healing and ascension work has initiated for us in a new way.<\/p>\n

Relationships built on that deep unfillable need are precarious situations.\u00a0 No one can fill the hole which is ours alone to fill through returning to unity.\u00a0 The loss of a relationship where we have built our life and identity around the other person opens that ancient chasm from the initial separation within our souls.\u00a0 I am confident that most of you have experienced this to varying degrees and know exactly what I mean.\u00a0 Now there is a solution to this which we can grow within our souls and within our relationships.<\/p>\n

The solution is to increase our sovereignty.\u00a0 The journey of doing that is very deep and personal.\u00a0 It is something I often initiate for people during healing sessions.\u00a0 But today I am going to try to give you a way of working with this for yourselves.\u00a0 This approach addresses not just relationship neediness, but also food and chemical addiction needs.\u00a0 You can use the it for any of those things.<\/p>\n

To help you with this work, I invite you to work with your angel self, as I have taught most of you to do.\u00a0 But if you are not familiar with this, here is the link to a post you can read to get to know it: https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/blog\/?p=2795<\/a> \u00a0Your angel self can help you to redirect your co-dependent energies and neediness to link with Higher Self and essence of truth of God.\u00a0 This will increase your sense of comfort, satisfaction, and peace.\u00a0 I will explain the process for doing that below:<\/p>\n

1 \u2013 Center into your wholeness like a tree and access your Inner Wisdom.\u00a0 If you are unfamiliar with these you can access instructions in Eve\u2019s 3 Most Important Things Video #1 in my Video Gallery – https:\/\/spiritualhealers.com\/video-gallery\/<\/a> .\u00a0 Practice always holding the wholeness of the tree and the presence of your true identity within that I call your Inner Wisdom.\u00a0 These will help you take your first steps toward sovereignty that are needed to do the next steps.<\/p>\n

2 \u2013 Once you are centered on your Inner Wisdom and grounded into both spirit and earth through your body you will become more aware of those situations where you lose that sense of wholeness and strength.\u00a0 That may happen when you are around other people more than by yourself.\u00a0 This is because we have learned in the old world to build entangled relationships with people.\u00a0 We give some of ourselves away, and expect, or hope to receive some of the other person in return.\u00a0 The ongoing give and take builds a network of unconsciously intermingled identity through which all participants may lose energy as well as their sense of self.<\/p>\n

Sometimes we like that intermingled feeling.\u00a0 It feels like it will fill the vast chasm that I mentioned earlier caused by separation from unity and Oneness at the beginning of our incarnations.\u00a0 This is a false sense of being filled, but a common one.\u00a0 Sometimes we don\u2019t like the feeling because the other person\u2019s energy is out of harmony with our own.\u00a0 We may sometimes feel more alone around them than when we are truly alone.<\/p>\n

When that is the case, we may tend to blame them for that or blame ourselves.\u00a0 We may try to change them or change ourselves to make things feel okay.\u00a0 Over time this causes a tremendous loss of self and feeling of anger, grief, sadness, emptiness, even hatred.<\/p>\n

Alternately we may merely feel stagnant in an entangled relationship and not know why.<\/p>\n

The practice I am going to teach in the following steps works for those situations.\u00a0 It can also work for less intimate relationships where people are predatory, abusive, negative, or draining.<\/p>\n

3 \u2013 Ascending into unity with Higher Self which is one with the Oneness we all come from is our destiny.\u00a0 Through that journey we are growing masterful in our lives.\u00a0 Ascended Mastery has no room for entanglement in relationships.\u00a0 It is a sovereign state where our unity and wholeness is absolute.\u00a0 Love for others flows unconditionally.\u00a0 Entangled relationships are conditional because we are vulnerable and need things from each other which may not be able to be given, but they are sought and emplied within those relationships.<\/p>\n

Learning to live in sovereignty requires us to learn to have relationships from the sovereign state where each person can be unique, whole and in harmony with their purpose.\u00a0 These relationships will be clean, wholesome, light.\u00a0 While people are moving in that direction, we can learn to be sovereign ourselves in our current relationships.<\/p>\n

In sovereignty, whatever is going on with the other will not be taken personally.\u00a0 Blame won\u2019t be something we participate in.\u00a0 Everyone has a right to their experiences.\u00a0 Compassion will allow us to care and assist if we feel they truly want what we have to offer and that it is timely and right for them and for ourselves to provide it.\u00a0 We won\u2019t try to change people or disempower them by trying to control their behavior and experiences, so they are comfortable for us.\u00a0 Everyone has a plan for how they learn in the present incarnation.\u00a0 We can support that in their own optimal way and time without controlling them through judgments, fears, and needs.<\/p>\n

What I am teaching today is to help you to learn and experience sovereign relationships.\u00a0 In my own life this work has been amazingly helpful, making what was an often-difficult relationship a much more positive, comfortable, and safe experience for myself and the other.\u00a0 I have taught this once before in Monthlies Class and I think in these posts, but I hope to give you an easier and more detailed way to work with it today.<\/p>\n

4 \u2013 Going back to the first step, be focused, and centered in your Inner Wisdom and wholeness like a tree.<\/p>\n

Meditate on your relationships and pick a sticky\/tricky\/or uncomfortable one to work with.<\/p>\n